Pondering the Pavement

April 2, 2015

Inner View with a Medium

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I’ve always been an inquisitive sort. I am a ‘nuts and bolts’ kind of person. I want to know how things work and why. Although my mother insists my first spoken word was “MA-MA” I am convinced that it was actually “WHY”. I assure you my attitude with my Spirit Guides is no different. It’s as if my guides are driving a car and I am in the back seat saying, “Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Huh? Are we?” Point to ponder: Is it ethical for a spirit guide to spank you at the side of the celestial highway? With this attitude it is no wonder that I am continually bombarded by questions from my clients. I am often asked about my background and experiences as a medium. The top three questions I usually get are:

  • What is it like being a medium?
  • Do you see dead people (thank you Sixth Sense)?
  • Seriously, who picks out your shirts?

I was going through some old files in my office recently and I happened upon an interview I had given in the Spring of 2008. I was interviewed by fellow medium and my dear friend, David Baker. Since I’ve always thought of my life as an open book, or a large print leaflet, I thought I would share it with you. Thanks for reading this blast from the past and helping me clean out my filing cabinet…

Medium’s Forum

In this month’s newsletter we present guest Medium Charles A. Filius from spiritual and famous Sedona, Arizona. Charles will offer his insight on what it is like to be a Medium.  I have also put Charles on the spot because he is also a Cartoonist and Comedian, or as he calls himself, “Comedium”.  So with that, go ahead Charles, the floor is all yours!

DB: What is a medium?

XLM: We’re merely a bridge connecting the physical world with those in the spirit world. The go-between between the living and the living impaired. Personally, I like to think of it as being an individual who has no social life in the physical and they can only get dead people to talk to them.

DB: When did you first discover that you were a medium and how did it affect you?

XLM: There’s no real easy answer to that question, actually. I had no idea I was a medium (or an extra large medium) until I turned 40. Looking back over my life I had many instances that were definite sign posts directing me down this path but I never put two and two together until much later. I’ve always been half a bubble off plumb.

In 2002, I took my first psychic development class ON my 42nd birthday. Interestingly enough, 42 is a 6 in numerology and I am, of course, a 6. Even at that point I had no idea I was a medium. I had finally begun to wrap my mind around the fact that I was somewhat psychic and that was a HUGE step for me. I began my first studies in mediumship in April, 2002. When I gave my first mediumship reading in class I can honestly say I’m not sure who was more shocked: me, the sitter or the stunned dead guy peering over my shoulder.

It totally changed my life. My outlook on life altered. My belief system — or lack of one — was obliterated. I was at the point in my life where I didn’t believe in an afterlife let alone that a God of any sort existed. I was in a dark place. I had lost not only hope but interest in anything. But when I was suddenly hurled onto this new path as a medium I had no choice but to look at life through a totally different periscope. Talk about having egg on my face…

It flipped my life upside down and, admittedly, for the better.

DB: Do you always see spirits everywhere you go?

XLM: I don’t actually see them with my physical eye. But I sure do feel them! They’re all over the place! I do my best to turn it off when I’m not working. I can’t be “on” 24/7. No one can. It’s too draining. I’m very protective of my private life with the living so the dead are no different.

If you go into a restaurant do you walk around to every table and speak to each and everyone there? No. So why would I do that to spirits in a building. Just because they are there doesn’t mean they want to talk.

I always let it be known that I am open to any spirit communication — providing it comes from those in the Divine White Light — when I enter a place I suspect to have a lot of paranormal activity. However, when I leave, nothing can come with me. It’s like last call at your local tavern: “You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here.”

DB: When or what made you decide to use your abilities as a medium to help others?

XLM: Honestly, I made the decision when I realized I could do it. It was truly a no-brainer for me. I’ve been given this ability for a reason so I must utilize it the best way that I can. It’s that simple. I can’t imagine NOT doing it.

DB: What was your greatest fear being a medium?

XLM: I always have “stage fright.” It worries me that I may not be able to connect. And that has happened on a handful of occasions. No medium is 100% dead on (acknowledge pun at your own risk) and everyone has a bad day at the office. There are all sorts of different reasons why the connection wasn’t made. I try to learn from those rare instances. No matter how much I try to rationalize it I find it’s still upsetting when I can’t cross the gap.

I want to emphasize, however, that I do NOT fear this work in any way. I surround myself with prayer, defense and the White Light of the Divine Source so I know I’m protected. I will occasionally have a sitter who admits to being scared. I just laugh and tell them there’s no reason. The dead guys have the hardest job: filtering their messages through my concrete encased head!

DB: Can you share a brief story of a fascinating encounter you have experienced with the paranormal?

XLM: It’s hard to pick just one! I sound like a potato chip commercial, don’t I?

One year ago I lost a very dear friend, Leigh. I was asked to deliver her eulogy so I had to fly from my home in Arizona to Chicago to attend her funeral. In order to make the flight I had to leave my house at three o’clock in the morning.

Leigh was one who would not, under any circumstance, fasten her seat belt. This was a source for an on-going feud between us. I would always pick her up at the airport in Phoenix when she would fly out for a visit. For the two hour trek home to Sedona I had to listen to the constant PING PING PING of the seat belt alarm. In order to shut me up she would fasten the seat belt then sit on it. The noise had stopped but she just wouldn’t wear the belt.

I got in my car that morning and started my trek to the Phoenix airport. As I was backing out of my driveway the seat belt alarm for the passenger seat started to go off. I slammed on the brakes and just stared at the presumably empty bucket seat. After a few seconds I just yelled, “OK! Fine! Don’t wear your seat belt! See if I care!” The alarm “pinged” a couple more times then fell silent.

Welcome to my world, folks.

DB: Have any of the famous mediums from the past or present inspired you?

Mrs. Leonard

XLM: Oh, yes. Gladys Osborne Leonard. She was a British trance medium who passed away in 1968 at the age of 84. I’m convinced she is helping me in my mediumship from her residence on the other side. I have a rather intense respect for Mrs. Leonard. I cannot refer to her as “Gladys.” It is always “Mrs. Leonard.” I don’t know why but it just is. I will often call my Master Guide, Robert, “Bobby” when I’m upset or annoyed with him. I’ll even refer to Archangel Michael as “Mikey” from time to time. But Mrs. Leonard is ALWAYS “Mrs. Leonard.” She once came through to me in a reading and told me the formality was not necessary. “I’m not the Queen of England, you know?” she said. But she’s still Mrs. Leonard. Go figure.

I’ve also been quite inspired by Leslie Flint, a direct voice medium from England. William Stainton Moses, who I personally consider the Granddaddy of Automatic Writing, is another I have studied extensively.

If someone wants to learn more about mediumship I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to read the older books, from the latter part of the 19th century and the first half of the 20th, on the subject. Mrs. Leonard wrote 3 books herself. Moses wrote four books (under the penname M. A. Oxon) and Leslie Flint wrote one (one of the best autobiographies of a medium I’ve ever read). The information is invaluable.

One of my favorites today is Hans Christian King. He has a beautiful combination of humor and divine wisdom that continues to motivate me daily. Others that positively influence me are George Anderson, John Edward and John Holland.

DB: Have you met any famous mediums?

Yes, I have. I’ve met George Anderson—and was blessed to receive a reading from him. It blew my mind! He is a crystal lens. His messages are clear and concise. I’ve also met James van Praagh, Peter Close, Robert Brown, Brian Hurst, Hollister Rand, Tim Braun and John Holland. I encourage anyone interested in mediumship, either as a calling or as a student of sorts, to see as many mediums at work as possible. You can learn SO much just by observing.

DB: You are also a cartoonist.  Tell us what you do and how this relates to your role as a medium, if at all?

XLM: As odd as it seems they truly go together hand-in-hand. I have been drawing comics for nearly as far back as I can remember. When I was about 8 years old I saw a TV special about Charles Schulz, the genius behind PEANUTS. As I watched him draw I immediately knew that was exactly what I was going to do with the rest of my life.

Humor is vital to my existence. It’s key to everyone’s life in my opinion. You have to laugh. Laughter is healing. In my opinion laughter is the physical manifestation of absolute pure joy.

I began drawing funny pictures then moved on to writing and speaking funny words. When I give mediumship demonstrations, or just in a private reading, it takes on a life of its own. A reading with me can often have the feeling of a stand-up routine. My Guides have delightfully off-the-wall senses of humor and it shows. What burns me is when someone accuses my use of healing laughter to be disrespectful of Spirit and the work itself. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The humor is a tool for healing, pure and simple. I take what I do very seriously but I have a lot of fun doing it. Laughter won’t replace grief; it won’t make you gloss over your loss. But it can start the ball rolling toward healing. If you cannot wrap your mind around that then do not get a reading from me.

I also do Spirit Drawings. This is when I channel messages and images from your spirit guides through my art. They often have a whimsical feel to them. The energy of the drawing is contained within the pencil lines. I rarely do them for clients anymore, however. I tend to utilize this form of communication as I am preparing for a session and, sometimes, even during the session itself. It is second nature for me to have a pen or pencil in my hand so I just allow the energy to flow through me as it needs to and I do my best to not get in the way.

I draw silly pictures and I talk to dead people. My folks are SO proud let me tell ya…

DB: How does being a medium help you and others?

XLM: I learn from every reading I am honored to give. Hopefully the sitter will take home the healing and love that comes through in the reading. This seed that’s planted will flourish into a beautiful garden as time goes on. I receive the beauty of watching the miracles take place firsthand. I get a glimpse into the process and I get to feel the love that gushes forth from those in spirit. It doesn’t get any better than that.

I firmly believe that what I do is a gift. It’s not because I do this or I do that. Not at all. It’s a gift because I get to witness this miraculous process up close and personal. It still amazes me. Each session, each client, each event all offer me a glimpse into something so extraordinarily beautiful. It’s a gift and a blessing to be a part of it.

Admittedly, it’s even better if I get to do this and nibble on chocolate at the same time. But I digress…

DB: You have just published a book, “Selections From On a Wing and a Prayer.” Can you tell us a little about it? 

XLM: The subtitle of the book is “Early Jottings of a Befuddled Medium” and that really explains the whole thing. It’s a collection of essays that attempt to document my own spiritual journey—laughs and all—from my bewildered point of view. I want to push aside the stereotypical “woo-woo” that is associated with New Age. It is actually an excerpt from a larger book currently in the making. It continues to be written as my own story unfolds before me.

Being psychic is a very natural state because we are ALL psychic! There’s nothing mystical about it. Nor does it require some trek to the top of a mountain peak in a far off land with a name no one can pronounce. It’s in each and every one of us. It’s as natural as breathing. Or eating cheesecake.

This book brings to light the fact that if a dork like me can discover his intended pathway as a medium then by-gum-by-golly everyone can. The journey has been funny. The journey has been moving. The journey has even been draining. And let me tell you it’s been worth every step along that road. My Master Guide, Robert, has told me, “The dust beneath your feet is made of remnants of not only your journey but of those adventurers before you. It is a sacred reminder of where you have been and the Divine Inspiration to move onward, ever onward.”

And he’s right. It does inspire me each and every day.

DB: Thank you Charles, that was wonderful.


David Baker is a fabulous medium residing in San Rafael, California. I urge you to visit his website and contact him for a reading. His sincere kindness, as well as his personal and spiritual generosity, know absolutely no limits.

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